At the beginning of the wedding planning process, make a list of the elements and wedding details that are important to you. Is it important to get married at a specific location? Do you need to have a designer wedding dress? Is a delicious menu at the top of your wish list?
Once you have an idea of the type of wedding you want, ask your fiancé to list his priorities. Remember, it's his wedding too.
After you have both lists you may want to ask your parents and his if they have any wishes for the wedding too, especially if they are contributing financially.
Pull all the priorities together on to one master list and as you begin to meet and hire wedding vendors, make it clear to them what elements and details you want for your wedding. It'll make it easier for them to see your vision by explaining what you want and what you don't want.