Would You Twitter From Your Wedding?

Do you remember the groom (and bride) who updated their facebook status from engaged to married in the middle of their wedding ceremony?

Since then a number of discussions have begun on whether it's okay for the bride and groom, as well as their guests, to tweet or update their facebook accounts from a wedding. I'm in the camp of no, because you should enjoy your wedding day with your family and friends who are at your wedding celebrating with you. You can always update your facebook account with pictures from the wedding (and honeymoon) after the big day. Your facebook friends will still see them - it's okay if they have to wait for the pictures. After all, if they were close friends wouldn't they have been invited to the wedding?

Anyway, here's an article I was interviewed for in this weekend's New York Newsday on tweeting and updating facebook at your wedding. There are some examples of how brides use Twitter on their wedding day and the idea of assigning someone as the official Twitter-er for your wedding.

Wedding Planning Advice at Dylan's Candy Bar

I've been asked to speak at the next Wedding Salon Bootcamp, scheduled for Monday, February 22nd at Dylan's Candy Bar (1011 3rd Avenue) from 6pm to 8:30pm.

The event will include a number of local New York wedding vendors showcasing their portfolios and samples of their work (read: free cake!) and giving short seminars on their areas of expertise.

I'll be sharing my top 10 wedding planning tips. Trust me, they're good, and I don't think PIBs are on the list. Maybe it'll be my top 11 tips!

The events costs $15 for two and you can register at weddingsalon.com.

Since the event is at Dylan's Candy Bar, here's a tip referring to candy:

As you know, I think edible favors make the best favors. Most of your guests will love getting a sweet treat as they leave your reception. Since brides are always looking for wedding planning tasks their grooms will enjoy, why not assign your groom candy duty? Tell him what you're looking for re: color, size, theme and have him go shopping, online and off, for the perfect candy favor. You can also make this a two-person assignments and visit local candy stores together, purchase and taste test a variety of candies until you find the right one!

But when it comes to packaging them, I think that task goes on your to-do list.

Wedding Dresses: When to Order Yours

I'm off to meet a friend at Kleinfeld. She's getting married on September 5th and nervous that if she doesn't make a decision soon she won't be able to get the dress that she wants.

It's important that you order your wedding dress at least 6 months before the wedding to ensure that the designer has enough time to manufacture it and there's plenty of time for alterations - you'll probably have three alteration appointments.

But just because you hit the 6-month mark doesn't mean you should settle for a dress that you don't love. There's always the possibility that the salon can rush the dress - though you will incur rush charges.

I honestly believe that when you try on the right dress you'll just know that it's the one. Don't buy a dress that you don't love because you're worried about the delivery schedule. I'm sure the salon and designer will work with you to get your dress in on time even if it's less than 6 months to your wedding.

Quick Tip: Bridesmaid Dresses

Check the ordering policy at the store you're ordering your bridesmaid dresses from. Some shops won't place the complete order for your wedding until ALL of your 'maids send in their measurements and payments.

Once you know the store's policy, make sure all of your bridesmaids have sent in the necessary information so that the order isn't held up.

Vendor Contract Points: Specifically Wedding Photographers

I received an email from a bride today about an issue she’s having with a photographer she’s thinking of hiring. She likes his work and his package rate is fine, but there are a few issues irking her:

1. After an initial package of prints and an album, he wants to charge $9 for each additional print and if a guest wants to purchase a print it’s $20 each. She was also concerned that this rate will go up over time.

2. He wants to use her photos for promotional use, on his site and pitching the images to blogs and wedding sites and magazines

3. He hasn’t been open to answering a number of her questions, including altering the package she’s interested in buying.

Here are my thoughts, which she thought may be helpful to other brides:

1. It’s common for photographers to charge a per print fee after the initial package of prints and your album. But you should find out the quality of the prints you'll be getting. Is he printing them on his home/office printer or is he sending them to a professional development company.

As for the rate, the rate in the contract should be a set rate and you can add a line that reads “rate not subject to change” if you’re concerned – just make sure both you and the photographer initial that section.

2. It’s common for photographers to use wedding photographs they’ve taken to promote their business either on their own site/blog and in promotional material as well as pitching their work to wedding magazines, sites and blogs. They own the copyright. There should be a line in your contract that informs you of this use and states that you grant them permission to use your images (shots that you and your guests are in) in these promotional ways. If you don’t feel comfortable then edit the contract to reflect what you do or don’t want. If he disagrees he’ll tell you.

3. If the photographer, or any vendor you’re thinking of hiring, isn’t cooperative and not answering your questions then don’t hire him. If you’re gut is telling you something’s wrong then you can walk away and keep looking for the right vendor.

How Will You Know It's the Right Dress? You Just Will.

I had coffee with a newly engaged friend this evening and she was telling me all about her wedding plans. They got engaged in early December and the wedding will be Labor Day Weekend 2010.

She's found most of her vendors but her search for the perfect dress continues. She has been to several salons and tried on a variety of styles but the two that she likes - similar in style but there's a big price difference - aren't wowing her, but she likes the way she looks in them.

Since her wedding is in early September I recommended, and so did the salons, that she place her order by early March to avoid rush charges. However, I also told her that she shouldn't settle on a dress.

It's hard to explain but you'll just know when the dress is right. It's instinctual. You won't want to take it off. You won't want to try on other dresses.

I explained this to my friend and gave her names of other salons to make appointments at.

Shopping for your wedding dress is a highly emotional and expensive purchase, don't settle on any dress, it's okay to take your time even if you end up paying rush charges. A few hundred dollars in a rush charge is better than spending a thousand dollars or more on a dress you don't love.

Learn How to Be a Wedding Planner from Bailey & Blum

I get emails all the time from people who want to be wedding planners. I try to give them the best advice I can but I usually suggest that they reach out to wedding planners in their area who they can possibly work for and if a job isn't available they can ask for an informational interview, which will allow them to learn more about the job.

If you're thinking of becoming a wedding planner, or are one and looking to grow your business, here's my advice to you: Consider taking the Bailey & Blum weekend mentoring program in New York City next month. I had breakfast with Marcy earlier this week and she was telling me all about it. It sounds amazing!

A select group of wedding and event planners will get a behind the scenes look at what Preston Bailey and Marcy Blum (both celebrity wedding professionals, as I'm sure you know) do to create an amazing event. The interactive workshop will be held at Preston Bailey's studio and includes a networking event with some of the event industry's top talent.

To learn more and to register visit BaileyandBlum.com. And by the way, the fee to attend is $5,000 but if you're serious about wedding and event planning it's well worth it.

Hotel Blocks for Your Guests - Book 'em Early

Wherever your wedding is being held - in your hometown or at a destination - you will probably need to block a number of rooms at a hotel nearby for out of town guests. It's very important that you call local hotels as soon as you set a date and confirm a venue, you don't want to risk the chance that there won't be enough rooms for your party.

While you may think your wedding is the only event in town that weekend, hotels get booked months in advance for family vacations, business travelers, business conferences and social events. It's better to book your block early so you don't run the risk of not having rooms for your guests because a hotel is sold out.

And you may want to block rooms at a budget and moderate or luxury hotel if there is more than one option in the area.

Making it Legal

I was watching an old episode of How I Met Your Mother last night and the story revolved around Marshall and Lily eloping to Atlantic City. They just decided that morning that they wanted to get married immediately and rush off to AC to say, “I do.”

When they got to the wedding chapel they were asked to present a marriage license, which they didn’t have. The clerk at the chapel (not the court) explained that Atlantic City is not Las Vegas and to get married anywhere in the state of New Jersey you need to apply for a marriage license at a courthouse. And in addition to the license there is a waiting period, so you can’t get a license and married in the same day.

It’s very important to find out in advance of your wedding – months and weeks, and not days before – what the license requirements are in the state you are getting married in. Every state in the United States has its own laws and policies and you need to get a license in the state you are getting married in, not the state you live in. This is very important to remember!

And if you are having a destination wedding you have to follow the marriage license laws in the country you are getting married in. Some countries have waiting periods and/or residency requirements. If either are more than a few days you may want to consider a civil ceremony in your hometown before you leave or when you get back.

Long Island Wedding Event: Feb 21st

Attention New York area brides: Thinking of getting married on Long Island? If so, you'll need to research locations and vendors who will help you create your dream wedding.

The Garden City Hotel, one of -- if not the only -- luxury hotel on Long Island is hosting the Bridal Art Showcase featuring Ron Ben-Israel Cakes, gowns from Bridal Reflections and event design ideas from Karyn Michael Events. The Bridal Art Showcase will take place on Sunday, February 21st from 12noon to 5pm.

The event will include a fashion show, delicious food and a meet & greet with a variety of the Island's top wedding professionals.

The fee to attend is $25 per person, but you'll receive a $25 gift card to dine at the Garden City Hotel's restaurant, Rein, at the event.

Visit Bridal-art.com for event details and to register.


FYI - Dave and I stayed at the Garden City Hotel the night of our wedding along with close family and out-of-town guests. My grandfather hosted our post-wedding brunch at the hotel too. It really is a fabulous location for a wedding and pre/post-wedding parties.