Friday, July 31, 2009

Email RSVPs

At last night's Lion in the Sun event the panel of bloggers were asked about having an email address for guests to RSVP to instead of a reply card. Bee of Wedding Bee mentioned that she's seeing more and more brides opt for an online reply system because they can save money on printing a formal RSVP card and envelope and postage as well as being more eco-friendly.

Melinda of Lion in the Sun suggested that instead of listing your email address on your invitation, you have a small card - it could be business card size - printed that instructs guests to RSVP on your wedding Web site or to a particular email address.

While I don't think there's anything wrong with having your guests reply via email, I do think you have to consider two things:

1 - If your guest list includes members of the "Greatest Generation" (age 70+) you have to consider that some of them may not have access to a computer let alone their own email account.  (My grandmother is still amazed that we can shop for things online.)  You may want to have a small amount of traditional RSVP cards and envelopes printed just for this set of guests. 

2 - Your invitation sets the tone for your wedding.  The more casual your invite, the more casual your guests will assume it will be and they will dress accordingly.  If you expect everyone in formal attire then you should have your invite reflect the formality of the wedding.   An email RSVP may reflect a more casual affair.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Divorce Court Dance Video

A BIG thank you to Maria at Ritzy Bee and photographer Kate Headley for finding this fab spoof on Jill and Kevin's dancing down the aisle video:

Lion in the Sun Stationery Event...Tonight!

If you live in Brooklyn and have nothing planned for tonight, stop by the Lion in the Sun wedding stationery event tonight at 7pm.

There will be a blogger panel answering questions on wedding stationery including etiquette, design ideas and overall planning tips.  You'll be able to meet and speak with me, Bee from Wedding Bee, Vane from Brooklyn Bride and Anne-Marie from Perfect Bound along with stationery designers and the experts at Lion in the Sun.

Click here for more information.

Hope to see you tonight!!

PS - Always remember to bring a pen and paper with you to bridal events to jot down notes. You don't need to lug your wedding organizer with you, but you may want to bring your fiance, mom or bridesmaid to share in the fun.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Beware of Reviews

A lot of Web sites allow consumers to rate and review a businesses, but readers cannot be sure who really is writing the reviews. Think about it. A reviewer can be the business owners/workers or a friend of theirs or a competitor can write a negative review of a competing business.

When searching out the right vendor for your wedding, get recommendations from friends and family as well as other vendors that you're meeting with or already hired. And remember that reviews are subjective. Someone might think the work of one vendor is horrible, while you might love it.

Do your own research and meet with people that you like, regardless of whether a co-worker told you that the staff was hard to work with or they didn't like their work. Make your own decision based on your communications with a business and opinion of their work.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Written Word

A friend just told me that the hotel where her guests were staying had a bar for them to hold their post-wedding reception after party. After numerous emails and phone calls, the bride was assured that the bar would remain open and she would be charged for drinks ordered when she checked out of the hotel the follwoing morning.

After returning to the hotel after their reception she found all of her guests standing in the hotel lobby. It turns out no one in the event sales office communicated to the bar staff that they would be staying open late - well past closing - so the bar manager kicked out the wedding party.

Needless to say the bride and groom were very upset but were able to move their group to a local bar in the area and everyone had a great time.

When checking out of the hotel the following morning the bride complained and demanded that something be done. There was no contract since the hotel insisted they didn't need a contract with her stating the bar would remain open for X amount of hourse so the bride turned to her email account where she found several emails from the hotel stating that the bar would remain open after hours for her party and further explained their fees for such an event.

In the end the bride received some compensation from the hotel - refunds for room charges and a comp dinner at their restaurant.

Just like when you're dealing with vendors, you should get everything in a written contract and save all of your email correspondences so you have evidence of a vendor going back on their word and therefore can fight them for a refund.

When it comes to planning a wedding - or any event - get everything in writing.

Monday, July 27, 2009

What Gift Givers Must Not Forget

Dave and I received a number of baby gifts when our daughter was born a few months ago but the most memorable card we received was the one with no name in it. A bag with a present was dropped off at my parents’ house – left on their porch – and the card didn’t read anything, so we have no idea who left it. It’s the big mystery and we’re hoping someone might mention that they wanted to make sure we received their gift since they didn’t receive a thank you note.

Greeting cards can be expensive but it’s very important to add a card or gift tag to a gift you give anyone, whether for a birthday, shower or wedding. How else will the recipient know who to thank?

While some stores will give you a free card to attach to a present, sometimes you want to write well wishes on a card or tag with a little more personality than a clean white slate.

DIYers will probably make their own or add stickers or a little “artwork” to a white card, but you can also pick up some decorative gift tags and save yourself time.

Stationery company Linda & Harriet recently launched these colorful gift tags which you can easily attach to a present and sign your name along with a brief note. For brides creating a scrapbook of their engagement, planning process and wedding, greeting cards and notes from friends and family will be exactly what they want to include.

Visit to purchase these gift tags along with other creative cards and stationery designs.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Dancing Down the Aisle

I've heard of "Dancing on the Ceiling" but one recently wed couple had their bridal party dance down the aisle. I thought this was a great way to personalize your wedding, as long as the member of the bridal party are not afraid to boogie their way to the altar.

It's always a good idea to make sure all bridesmaids, groomsmen and any other family members, such as parents, grandparents and of course kids feel comfortable and you might want to rehearse with everyone a few days before so everyone knows the music and can get some idea of what moves they'll use.

Dave found the YouTube clip, so here it is:

If the video doesn't play for you, click here to see it on

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Attention Passengers, Or In This Case Brides

I was on the subway today and there was an announcement reminding passengers to give up their seat for an elderly, disabled or pregnant person.  You would think people wouldn't need a reminder to do this, but anyway it made me think of a related wedding tip.

Some couples are deciding to have tall cocktail tables with chairs for that lounge look, but even with this style you should still have some traditional tables and chairs for elderly, disabled and pregnant guests who may have difficulty climbing on a stool.

I've also been asked about not having seat assignments when serving a buffet-style meal.  If your guest list is less than 100 that shouldn't be a problem, however you may still want to reserve a table or two for older guests who will need/want a seat.  In this situation I would think that your guests would give their seat to a disabled or pregnant woman since everyone is family or a close friend.

If your wedding ceremony will not have seats for everyone make sure to reserve some for guests who may need a seat.  You may also want to check with your ceremony and reception locations to see if they are handicap accessible if you do have guests in wheelchairs.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Classic Cars on Classic Bride

I found a great post on the Classic Bride blog about decorating the getaway car.  This detail is often overlooked because it's a fun extra that isn't on the top of most bride's to-do lists.

If you want to decorate your getaway car, the Classic Bride offers some great ideas using real flowers as well as ribbons.  My personal favorite is the light pink VW bug.

If you're renting a getaway car ask the company about some alternatives to a traditional white or black limo.  Some may have a classic Rolls Royce and others may have vintage cars in their inventory.  Or if you only want a vintage car search the Internet for "vintage car rentals" in your area.

Once you've selected a car, find out what you can and can't decorate it with.  The company may recommend a paint or adhesive that can be removed without damaging the car.  Or they may not want you to paint "Just Married" on the window but tying ribbons or the familiar cans and shoes are okay.  You don't want to do something that can damage the car and get stuck with a bill for repairs.

Also ask about when the car needs to be picked up and returned, and if you're leaving for your honeymoon early the next morning ask a friend or relative to return the car for you - and make sure they know where the keys are!

If you're making your getaway during the day all of your guests will get to see the car and it will make a great photo op, but if you're leaving the wedding in the dark it may not be worth the money to spend a lot on a car and decor no one will see.  Since we were the last to leave the reception - with a few relatives - we drove to the hotel in our own car sans decorations.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Brooklyn Stationery Event with Bklyn Bride

Attention Brooklyn brides: Lion in the Sun, a fabulous Park Slope stationery store is having a special blogger event for brides on Thursday, July 30th from 7 to 9pm featuring Vane Broussard of Brooklyn Bride. In addition to browsing stationery collections and enjoying wine and snacks, Vane - and a special guest blogger - will discuss the latest wedding trends.

The event is free and offers a 10% discount on all future stationery orders for attendees, and if you select a Brooklyn-based vendor you'll receive 20% off your order.

RSVPs are required so email to reserve your spot and put "RSVP July 30 event" in the subject line.

Lion in the Sun is located at 232 7th Avenue.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Dressing the Part

If you're planning on having your pet at your wedding, either as a member of the bridal party or as an invited guest, there's no reason he or she can't dress appropriately.

Donna from Beautiful Blooms in Philadelphia created this floral tie made of blue delphiniums and green pom pom chrysanthumums for TJ. Visit the Beautiful Blooms blog to see more floral attire for your pet. Photo by Marie Labbancz.

There are some things to keep in mind if you are including your pet(s) in any capacity:
  • Make sure that someone is in charge of your pet - and make it someone he knows. As the bride and groom, you don't want to have to take a break from your wedding to feed or walk the dog.
  • Have both a bowl of food and water available. And bring extra food.
  • If your pet will be walking down the aisle, have a friendly face at the other end for him to walk too and give that person a treat for the dog once he gets to the end.
  • Similar to children at a wedding, you may want to consider hiring a sitter to watch your pet(s) so you don't have to worry about them.
  • Double and triple check that your ceremony and reception sites are pet-friendly.
  • If you are leaving for your honeymoon from the wedding ask a friend or relative, who your pet knows, to take your pet wherever he is going to be while you're away.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Dave vs Anne: The Final Results Are In

And Anne won!  Thank you all for your advice.

I just wanted to let you know that we saw the family whose gift caused a tiff between me and Dave.  We gave them the gift in question - and the thank you note we sent them for their gift as well as our baby announcement, both which was returned to sender - and the LOVED it!  

They said that this was their son's first pair of jeans and the dad, a huge Star Wars fan, loved the onesie, which read: "My dad rules the galaxy", with a photo of the Deathstar and Darth Vader.

So thank you again for all chiming in, we really appreciate it and I'm sure we'll be having more Dave vs. Anne debates where we'll need your help.

Friday, July 17, 2009

Saving the Date

What's wrong with my daughter's "save-the-date" onesie?  Well, it only tells guests that her Bat Mitzvah will be in the year 2022, it neglects all the other important details. 

So what should be printed in your save-the-date?  Here's a list of what you want to include:
  • The date - month, day, year.  You don't need to name the day of the week but you can if you want to.
  • The city and state, and country if you're not getting married in the U.S.  You do not need to list the exact place of the wedding, such as the church, temple or reception site
  • Your names.  Don't assume that your distant relatives will know off the bat who the save-the-date is from.
  • Travel and accommodation information if you have guests traveling to your wedding, especially if the wedding is abroad.  You should also include recommended airlines and hotels as well as discount codes if you've secured group rates.
  • Have "invitation to follow" printed on the bottom of the card because some guests may think that your save-the-date card is the formal invitation.
You should not list where you are registered and remember that you should only send a save-the-date card to the guests you are 100% inviting.  Once you mail someone a save-the-date card he or she must receive a wedding invitation so limit the mailing list to relatives and friends who will definitely be invited to the wedding.

And by the way, there really is nothing wrong with her onesie.  It's just a cute picture that inspired me to write this post.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Sew Important

A friend of mine went to a wedding last weekend and told me what happened to the bride's dress. When one of the bridesmaids attempted to bustle the bride's train one of the strings ripped off the under side of the skirt, making it impossible to properly bustle the skirt. Proper meaning that the dress was "dragging" on the floor.

Once hearing this I said, "no problem, that's why you have a sewing kit with you as part of the emergency kit." Well, this bride didn't have a sewing kit (or an emergency kit) and proceeded to take sections of the dress and just tie the sections into "knots" and I mean the outer layers of the dress, not the slips and petticoats underneath.

So, moral of the story: Always have a sewing kit with you so if one of the strings of the bustle falls off you - or someone who knows how to sew - can reattach it and therefore be able to bustle your skirt.

Another bride I know had the spaghetti strap of her dress pop off during the reception so the mother of the bride grabbed my mom and asked her if she could reattach it. They had a sewing kit on hand.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Cake Cutting Tip

I watched the last hour of the TODAY Show Throws a Wedding this morning and caught the newlyweds cutting their beautiful cake.

For the cake cutting ceremony, the couple had assistance from Hoda and Kathie Lee and while you won't have "celebrities"  helping you, you should confirm with your catering or location manager that there will be someone on the wait staff on hand to assist you.

You may think that you don't need help cutting your cake but there are a few things that you will need assistance with:  
  • bringing the cake to the center of the dance floor
  • telling you where to place the knife -- some cakes are "fake" and only have a small area with cake specifically for the cake cutting ceremony
  • how to pose for the photo -- bride's hand on the knife and the groom's over hers
  • he or she will have a plate available and help put the slice you cut on a plate so you don't stain your dress or his tux
  • roll the cake table to the kitchen to be served
And of course you'll need an extra pair of hands with a napkin on hand to help you or your groom remove excess cake from your face if one of you decides to smash the slice into the other's face.  But you and your groom won't do that, right?

Photo Credit: TODAY Show/Denis Reggie 

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

TV Weddings and What You Can Learn From Them

While I am not a fan of shows that make brides look crazy, you can still get inspiration from the weddings these "bridezillas" plan.  Depending on where the TV wedding is being held and where your wedding will be held you may even find a great vendor.

Here's what you should pay attention to:
  • the wedding dress
  • decor, including ceremony items, reception linens and flowers
  • bouquets and boutonnieres
  • bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen attire
  • wedding cake
  • special songs and dances
  • and any other detail you see that catches your eye

If you do see something you like check out the show's Web site.  The network will usually have a page dedicated to the show and a list of credits, including photos and vendor information.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Do You Have to Make a Sissy?

This is what my friend’s dad asked her right before she left the house for the reception hall for her wedding. While it may sound funny he asked a good question. You don’t want to get in your gown, especially if it’s a complicated one, and then realize you need to use the bathroom.

While this may seem like weird advice, try and use the restroom before you put your dress on.

It’s also a good idea to have a relative or friend know how to help you in and out of your dress in case you can’t do it yourself. At my wedding, I grabbed a friend and she helped me out of my dress during the reception and then at her wedding, right before the ceremony, I held up her dress’s skirt for her. What are friends for right?

I know this may be too much information, but it’s something you won’t think about until it’s too late. You do not want to have an accident on your wedding day. How would you explain why there’s a stain on your dress or why you had to change into your getting ready outfit halfway through the wedding?

So when your friend is learning how to bustle your train during your last fitting, make sure she pays attention to any other design details that will get you in and out of your gown, including buttons and corset lacing.

Friday, July 10, 2009

A Little Help From Your Friends

Having your friends help out with wedding details can definitely save you money, but it's important to make sure that both you and your friends know what your expectations are and that you know what their limitations are.

A friend of mine offered to do her friend's hair for her wedding this weekend and after I asked a few questions yesterday we discovered that the friend was not told what time she needed to be at the hotel, the wedding is a few hours away from where she lives, and there was some confusion as to whether the bride was doing part of the 'do or the friend was doing all of it.

I told my friend she need to call the bride and find out when she was getting ready because the bride can't put her dress on until her hair and makeup are done and the bride may plan on the photographer (another friend) to take pictures while she is getting ready.

While friends may offer their skills as a wedding present (saving them money) and you may take them up on it (saving you money) it's important to know exactly who will do what and when. In the situation of a photographer who is a friend you may expect that he or she will take pictures all day and night and supply you with a wedding album, while your friend may plan on taking pictures but not making you an album for free.

It's important to talk and not necessarily get everything in writing, but make sure that there's a complete understanding between both of you as to what you expect and what they are really capable of doing. Just because your groom's college buddy owns a video camera doesn't mean he can be your videographer and just because your childhood friend likes to bake doesn't mean she can make you that five-tiered cake you found in a wedding magazine.

So if a friend or relative does offer their services to you as a wedding gift make sure that you really like what they do and that they can do what you want. It's okay to say no. Just explain that you've already hired a vendor for that part of the wedding. They'll understand.

Thursday, July 09, 2009

VPL: Glamour Magazine's Tip On How to Avoid Them

I flipped through the July issue of Glamour magazine yesterday and they had a tip on wearing white without letting your undies and bra show through and I thought of the post last month about the bride whose panty lines were totally visible.

The article said the best way to tell if your clothes are see through is to look at yourself in natural light - sunlight.

Now the bridal salon will probably not let you leave the salon to check and once the dress is yours you don't want to take any chances in getting it dirty or damaged, so rely on your family/friends and the woman fitting you at the salon to tell you if anything is showing.  And if the fabric is sheer and you're not sure ask the seamstress about adding a lining or wearing a slip.

If you can't find a good bra to fit talk to the seamstress about sewing cups into the dress, and as for undies you're just going to have to try a few different styles and colors till you find the right one.  Going commando is always an option but make sure that truly is the best option before the wedding day.  You don't want to make this call on the big day.

Wednesday, July 08, 2009

Save 15% on Your Wedding Invitations and Get Expert Advice

Your wedding invitation is the first detail of your wedding your guests will see. If you send save-the-date cards then that will be the first detail, but your save-the-date card doesn’t have to match the rest of your stationery wardrobe. You may not have picked a theme and/or palette by the time you send your save-the-date out.

I spoke with Kara Yanagawa, Custom Manager at Egg Press,  for her expert wedding stationery tips to help you select your wedding invitation. Here’s what she had to say on selecting the right design and working with a stationer:

  • Your invitation is an introduction to the wedding and it sets the tone for the event. Whether you choose an invitation that reflects your personal style, or the style of the event, your invitation should be something you love.

  • Budget is often a factor and may dictate the process by which your invitation is printed. If you have your heart set on a particular process, your printer may be able to come up with some ideas about how to make the project fit your budget. Some compromises may be: Using a less expensive paper stock, changing the design to a 1-color design, omitting your return address printing on the envelopes, or choosing a postcard RSVP instead of a card with printed envelope.

  • Know that in some cases (like ours), letterpress studios can get pretty custom and may even offer design services. These can range from swapping out fonts or colors, customizing an existing design with a personalized motif or creating an entire suite designed to your specifications.

  • If you're having a designer start from scratch, make sure you’ve done your homework and go to them with colors, thoughts about paper and motifs that give the flavor of what you're hoping to achieve. If you go this route, try to choose a studio whose aesthetic matches the style you are after. Design fees in addition to the cost of printing usually apply.

  • Working with a stationer can help you with wording and etiquette questions, and can also recommend alternatives and help problem solve. A stationer will place and track your order with your chosen manufacturer and deal with any issues that may arise.

  • If you choose a letterpress design, be sure to give this process enough time - remember it's a handmade product whereby each and every paper element is treated individually with great care.

The “Mum” design pictured above is one of the many fantastic designs from Egg Press, and available at From now through August 3, 2009, is offering Egg Press designs at 15% off!

Click through the Egg Press gallery to view all of their designs and remember to us the code EGG at checkout to save money on your wedding invitations.  And to learn more about other stationery items by Egg Press, visit their Web site,

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

A Good Humor Thing

I picked up a copy of the summer issue of Martha Stewart Weddings today and started flipping through.  I got to the second page of the "Good Things" feature and read about renting vintage ice cream trucks - specifically Good Humor - and someone dressed in the vintage uniform to serve your guests.

When I got married in 2003 that's exactly what we did.  The pictures in this post are from my wedding album - I don't have the originals on my computer.

As you can see from the image above we had a vintage Good Humor truck and "driver" in uniform on hand to give guests ice cream as they left our wedding.  Actually, word spread during the reception that there was an ice cream truck outside so guests went outside to enjoy their favorite Good Humor pop before the cake was served.

If you do decide to treat your guests to ice cream at your wedding make sure you order enough for at least two pops per guest.  Some will go back for seconds and there may be a minimum you need to order.  I think we had to order enough for each guest to have four pops.

You probably will have extra so bring an insulated cooler to pack up the remaining boxes of ice cream.  We had enough ice cream left over to feed the family over the whole summer.

Remember to get a variety of flavors.  Not everyone loves chocolate.  Ask close friends and family what their favorites are to get an idea of what you should order.

You can still serve wedding cake and another dessert in addition to the ice cream.  I looked at the ice cream as the wedding favor guests could enjoy on their way home.

In the photo below you'll see me and my mom standing first in line to get our favorite flavors.  I think she got strawberry shortcake and I got an ice cream sandwich and since this was the end of the wedding I wasn't concerned about any ice cream dripping on my dress.

And back in 2003 the Internet was not what it is today, so you'll probably have an easier time of finding a company that rents vintage Good Humor trucks or other ice cream vendors.  Just enter the right keywords into Google:  ice cream truck rental, Good Humor, Haagen Dazs, Mr. Softee, vintage, 

Monday, July 06, 2009

Dave vs. Anne: You Decide

Dave and I are are having a discussion and he said he was going to put the discussion, okay argument, on my blog so I beat him to it.  Here's what happened:

Dave's friend and wife had a baby in mid-April so I went to the Baby Gap and bought a gift - Star Wars onesie and jeans in a 6-12 month size.  The dad LOVES Star Wars.  We asked them to send us their address in Nebraska so we could put it in the mail  We were told to hold onto it until they returned to NY in June.  So we did.  

I got a gift receipt when I bought the gift, but since April I had a baby and was unorganized with all the baby items and my own recovery and misplaced the gift receipt.  Now the dad didn't send us his NY address until the end of June, AND the package I mailed was returned to me because that address is undeliverable.

So now I have their gift, again, and we're seeing them in two weeks.  So here's the debate:

Dave thinks I have to buy them a new gift because I can't find the original gift receipt and Dave thinks that this three month old is going to be too big for a 6-12 month size.

I say, they're getting this gift without the receipt with my apologies because it's a neutral item in a large size that will fit.  

What do you think?  

Penis Bridal Shower Favors Aren't for Everyone

A cousin of mine just told me that she attended a bridal shower a few weeks back where the favors were pink-colored chocolate penis pops (see photo above).  In addition to the x-rated pops, the entertainment included a stripper.  The guest list included friends of the bride as well as her family and the groom's family.  That includes moms and grandmas.

I remember a story years ago of a friend who attended a bridal shower and one of the moms - the bride or groom's, I don't remember which - surprised the bride with a stripper at the bridal shower.

I personally would have been mortified if a stripper showed up at my shower, where my mom and grandmothers were present.

There's a difference between the shower and bachelorette party.  The bridal shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts to furnish her new home with her husband.  The bachelorette party, like a bachelor party, is for the bride-to-be to celebrate her last night as a single gal with her best buds.

While of course it's up to you to decide what you want at either of these parties, not everyone wants a stripper at their shower or bachelorette.  Let the hosts of these parties know what you want.  After all their both parties in your honor.

PS - I am a fan of edible favors for weddings and showers so talk to your chocolatier about options that fit the party's theme or a wedding theme in general.

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Local Treats Your Guests Are Sure to Enjoy

I know I’ve written before about using items created locally in your wedding, either as a favor, in a guest room gift or other detail. Martha Stewart Weddings even did a story on regional wedding favors.

If you’re getting married in a city that’s important to you and your fiancĂ©, or you’re getting married in a destination many guests may not be familiar with, it’s a nice idea to incorporate the location into your details. But how do you pick an item that represents the local area?

Kirei Nest, a new registry blog I wrote about last month just launched a new feature, Locale Lovelies, where local folks (bloggers, shop owners, artist) from every state will write posts about their home state and which local items they would suggest for wedding details.

The first in the 50-post series is for the state of Alabama and includes sweets as well as recommendations on what to do and where to eat if you’re getting hitched in the town of Florence, AL.

Image from

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

A Shower Gift From the Groom

This maybe something that only I think is appropriate but I’ve seen it at several showers and I really think it should be a staple at showers everywhere: The groom should give a gift to the bride.

It doesn’t have to be an expensive gift or even jewelry, but it can be something special that she opens at the shower, whether he’s there or not.

I’ve seen groom’s give lingerie or even an item from the registry that he knows she really wants. However registry gifts may backfire as it did in the ‘90s comedy Father of the Bride. Remember when Brian gave Annie a blender as a wedding gift and she interpreted the gift as his way of thinking that the wife belongs into the kitchen. His explanation was that she liked to make a certain type of drink that you need a blender for.

Anyway, if you don’t want to tell or suggest to your groom that he should or may want to buy a gift that you open at the shower you can have a relative or friend tell him that he should/may want to. You never want to tell him what to do but suggestions are almost always welcome.  I wouldn’t necessarily tell him or suggest to him what the exact gift should be. That I think is something you want him to think of all himself.

PS – It is traditional for the groom to get the bride a wedding gift and for the bride to get the groom a gift too. Many grooms will give their brides a piece of jewelry that they can wear at the wedding, such as earrings or a necklace, but you can both agree ahead of time that you are or aren't exchanging wedding gifts or put a cash limit on the gift.

I remember telling Dave that we don’t need to spend money on a gift but I did expect a card/note from him the morning of our wedding. I gave him a card/note too and I also made him a CD to listen to while he got ready that morning with some wedding-related songs. Our favorite, that he surprised me with a few months earlier, was Somebody’s Getting Married by the Muppets.

Here’s the video from The Muppet Movie, it’s in two parts:

Isn’t it cute?


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