Wow I can't believe it! And this doesn't count the hiatus to iVillage Weddings for a year.
Dave and I had a 22 month engagement so to keep the excitement of planning going - more for him than for me of course - on the 22nd day of each month leading up to the wedding (we were married on the 22nd of June) I wrote a short four line poem and gave him a token gift. The gift had to be in the quantity of the number of months to go. I remember for 19 months I gave him 19 Hershey Kisses and I think for 10 I gave him a MetroCard with 10 subway rides on it.
After we were married we celebrated the 22nd of every month for the first year. And after June 22, 2004 we just celebrate our wedding anniversary with a card.
It's important that you don't just focus on the wedding day itself after you're engaged. Remember that after the wedding you are married to this person for better or worse till death do you part - or if you decide to divorce, which we don't hope for when we decide to marry someone, right?
Keep the spark alive throughout your engagement and your marriage by doing little things for each other. You don't have to spend a lot or any money. Leave a post-it on the bathroom mirror or front door that reads "I love you" or surprise him with reservations to his favorite restaurant even thought you hate it.
I went on vacation in September 2008 with my mom and sister and when I left I put a post-it on the inside of the front door that read "I love you. Have a good __day __night *check one that applies." The note is still on our door - post-its really do stick - and every day we both see it when we leave the house and lock up at night and it makes me smile and I know it warms his heart too. And that little post-it didn't cost anything and to us, 2+ years later, it's priceless.