Don't Force a Veil on the Bride at Her Shower or Bachelorette Party

When bridesmaids are planning your bridal shower and bachelorette party as the bride you have to let them know if you do or don't want certain elements included.

The bridal shower and bachelorette party are both thrown in honor of the bride so they are not under her watchful planning and style eye like the wedding.  While I don't want to suggest you bully your bridal party into planning the exact party you want, especially if they can't afford it, I am saying that it's okay to give hints on the type of party you'd like and the type of party and details you detest.