I was talking to Elayne Fluker, the Managing Editor at Brides.com, about a wedding she recently attended and she commented that it was the nicest ceremony she had ever been to. The officiant was not religious and took time in the weeks and months leading up to the wedding to meet with the couple on several occasions and really get to know them.
During the ceremony, she incorporated members of their family and friends into the ceremony, even having all of the guests in attendance announce them “husband and wife” at the end.
While most of the planning elements will revolve around the reception, it is important to remember that it is the fact you are getting married that is truly important. The ceremony should not be an afterthought.
If your officiant has known you or your fiancé (and the respective family) for years than it should be easy for him or her to incorporate personal details into the ceremony. But if the officiant is not that familiar with either of you, schedule a few appointments with him or her and share the story of how you met and fell in love. It’s okay to ask the officiant how they run a wedding ceremony – what they include, what they don’t – and be open about what the two of you want to include and what you don’t. Take the time to plan the details of the ceremony just as carefully as you’re planning the details of your reception.